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What is the most difficult thing about love?
Posted on Dec 12th, 2008
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Lene
Lene
This is in Response to the Questions and Reflections for December 12, 2008:
The question of limitations.
Unconditional means no limits.
I find it hard to protect my self worth
if someone treats me disrespectfully
if I just turn the other cheek.
I have a need to stand up for myself.
Is that an ego thing? Dignity? Self defense?
At what time or sign does one leave
a lover who hurts one´s feelings?
Some times it is more loving to leave.
?
When a twosomeness is poisonous,
giving grief instead of support.
Un conditional. No matter what.
But to love does not have to mean
to be together.
?
I still love my ex men.
I wish them the best. Happiness.
But no way would I want them
back into my life.
I love them on condition that they
stay at a safe distance from me?!
:)
I guess I can´t claim to love them, then?
Tricky thing, this limitlessness...
Unconditional means no limits.
I find it hard to protect my self worth
if someone treats me disrespectfully
if I just turn the other cheek.
I have a need to stand up for myself.
Is that an ego thing? Dignity? Self defense?
At what time or sign does one leave
a lover who hurts one´s feelings?
Some times it is more loving to leave.
?
When a twosomeness is poisonous,
giving grief instead of support.
Un conditional. No matter what.
But to love does not have to mean
to be together.
?
I still love my ex men.
I wish them the best. Happiness.
But no way would I want them
back into my life.
I love them on condition that they
stay at a safe distance from me?!
:)
I guess I can´t claim to love them, then?
Tricky thing, this limitlessness...
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Unconditional love isn’t for the other person, it’s for you. Love does not equate proximity, you can have a namaste/agape love for someone, knowing your contract with them is over, and never have to see them again.
My issue with defending myself is that I never have. Growing up I had such low self esteem, complete dorrmat. Then, a wise counselor gave me permission to say “NO” (and FU, which actually helped!) Once I got my 2nd Degree Balck Belt, I was better at asserting myself, but still attracted the not worthy stuff.
Fast forward years, a meditation and healing practice, doing so much inner work, finally reaching, hearing, living with the observer, self actualization- now I feel it’s more about them than it is me. I quit taking it personally. Defending myself- against whom? Myself? So, it seem sto the outside world that I am a doormat. What it really is is the inner strength to just let it all go.
Om Shanti,
Lisa
lettin’ it GO & allowing the FLOW!!!!
Lisa, thank you so much for this comment! “Quit taking it personally.” Of course!
Defending my self against whom… ?
these are really helpful thoughts to keep in mind.
The inner strength is to
just let it all go
and allow the flow,
thank you richDuck!
Your input makes a difference to me.
Wishing you both all the best there is.
Lots of Love;
Lene